So, you’re finally in a relationship. Or are you? You think you are. You envision it. You feel it. You know that final rose has your name written all over it…but are you sure? Or is it all in your head? Do you want to walk down that aisle of YOU AND ME FOREVER? Damn, that’s a heavy thought, and yet here we sit wondering shit like:
“Where is he/she now?”
“Why hasn’t he/she called or texted?”
“We just had sex the other day, but now I wonder if he/she is having sex with someone else?”
“Can I go on a date with another, or is that cheating?”
“Neither of us accepted that final rose yet…so what the hell does that mean?”
Why can’t we release the words that fill our hearts and minds? What are we afraid of? Maybe we don’t even know if we want a realtionship! But sure as hell in our minds, he/she should not be with anyone else. If he/she is, then I want nothing to do with him/her. Well, maybe one more time? And what if we go out with another? That should be okay because we haven’t discussed our status yet. But that only applies for me, right?! How many dates does it take to get to the center of where do we stand?
Do we take a chance and possibly shoot ourselves in our leg and ask: “Where do we stand?” or do we frolic through date after date keeping that pertinent information kept under wrath? Perhaps it is our self preservation that keeps us at an arms reach when it comes to relationship goals. After all, with everything we have been through do we now deem relationship goals as unattainable? Do we sit with the thought that only time will tell and continue watching the hands go round and round on the clock of love?
Sometimes we go way over the top and let self-doubt unleash it’s self-destruction upon us. When will we realize that we ARE worthy? That we are AMAZING? That we are ONE-OF-A-KIND? And the big kicker, when will we understand that this life we live is given to us moment by moment and we must seize all these precious moments as we never know what the next moment may bring. In that regard, let us spew out all our thoughts, desires, emotions, and all the other nonsense that really may not make sense. Here we go:
“I like you…a lot…do you like me? Are you talking to any other suitors? Dating? Desiring anyone else? Do you see me in your future? Is the sex good with me? I mean, the best yet? What can I do better? What do you truly like, free of inhibition? But don’t scare me! When you rub me there like a freak high on crack, it really doesn’t feel good. You’re not even hitting the right spots. Give me your hand. Let me show you what I like. When I nod my head about what you rant on and on about politics, I really just want you to shut the hell up. I like rough sex. Talk dirty to me and don’t judge me when I talk dirty back. My I don’t cares are really cares because I don’t want Italian food tonight, I want Mexican! I’m just trying to be polite.”
PEOPLE — Just say it like it is (kindness always in the forefront). Do you know how much easier and less complicated all our lives would be if we did this? When this can be achieved, we will all be able to accept that final rose with confidence and squash all that fucking self-doubt.
So, to the guy I am seeing right now: What the hell do you want with me? Because, honestly, I don’t know what the hell I want with you! Take this final rose and set it aside until we can both unleash. But talk to me. Let’s ask questions. Let’s explore. Let’s learn about the meat of one another. No inhibitions (or very few) so we can see where this may go. Or let’s find out if we’re just in it for the romp in the hay.
Ready. Set. Okay, you go first! 😂
Fuck…Back to square one!
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